Motivation is one on of the most powerful and wanted drugs in the world. From the moment we wake up in the morning to the moment we lay our heads down at night, motivation is essential in order to achieve our goals. Unfortunately, you can’t buy it anywhere; it is not for sale.  You either have it or not. With that being said, I believe some people are born winners and some are born losers.

 Let’s assume you are one of the people who believe that everyone’s born equal; then how do you explain why some people are more motivated than others? Why are some searching for something they allegedly have?

Why do you “need” motivation to accomplish something you WANT? Since you want it, what else do you need? Isn’t wanting it enough to get it? Isn’t the desire to want motivation enough to get you off your ass? It seems obvious to me that you don’t really want it since you don’t have the appropriate “motivation” to go get it. With #HighPerformanceMentality, once you want something, it becomes yours. If you can visualize it being yours; next all you have to do is put in the time and effort to get it.

It is that simple; however, not easy.

NOW let’s get back to my opening statement.

 I believe the statement about being “born equal” is only available for the first 10 minutes of our life. Since this first ten minutes won’t really affect our life destiny, it doesn’t predict the life that’s ahead of us (unless tragedy happens).  Since everyone is equal only for this small amount of time, it is safe to say, “You where RAISED a loser or a winner”.

You’re not born that way… you were born TO BE THIS WAY.

 You are a reflection of your first 7/8 years of your life. The way you were raised will dictate who you are and what you are going to be like as an adult.  Therefore, you don’t change; you grow. As young people we are surrounded by expectations held by other people who are not trying to help us discover our selfhood, but rather fit us into slots, called our environmental acquired identity.

We are usually stripped of our original giftedness within the first half of our lives.

With that being said, we spend the second half of our life trying to recover and reclaim the gifts we once possessed.  It is during this time when we are awake, aware and able to admit our loss. It then becomes our daily job to regain what once belonged to us.

It’s very easy to become someone we were not meant to be, if you let life passively sweep you along.

 How many times have you heard yourself or someone else say: “this is just who I am”.  This usually happens when we don’t like something about ourselves and/or try to accept/adopt a new bad behavior/habit. Think about it. Do you like who you are? Do you like everything about you? Do you like all the habits you posses? Do you want to grow? If you do, great, keep doing what you’re doing. However, if you don’t like a particular behavior, you don’t have to accept it. If you don’t like something about yourself, you don’t need/have to make it part of your identity just because you’re comfortable. You will only accept a faulty behavior and make it part of your identity only when you’re not willing to put in the work to correct it. Which brings me to my next question; why settle? Why accept something malignant when you can change it?

From the moment you reach the point in your life when you can make your own decisions, you are also directly responsible for these decisions. If you decide to accept something that’s not in alignment with your goals and dreams, you are also responsible for failing to achieve them.

 You are on the path of life; you are the architect of your own destiny. You are your path and that path is you. That is part of your growth process and the reason for your life atrophy. Where you are right now, is it the result of your decisions or the lack thereof.  You are whatever you want to be, whether it’s right or wrong, better or worse, a winner or a failure.

 Let’s say you are on the journey to discover your life purpose and best potential. This will show in your attitude. Your willingness to grow will be reflected by your humility and humble behavior. For example, when you hear a quote that resonates with your life path you’ll immediately say, “Aha…that makes sense”… You feel like you had it somewhere within and it was just brought to the surface. Right? That is because you were waiting for that quote. That quote came to you at the right time and place in your life journey. This happened because you want to grow.  Now, it is up to you on what you do from there that counts.

By blaming a lack of motivation just shows that you are on your individual path. Since you accept “who you are” then you should also accept the results of “who you are”.

 You should not blame a lack of motivation for your lack of success. That is a decision you make on a day-to-day basis for yourself. You are the only one responsible. Where you are in life right now is serving you a purpose. You are working on your life objective  (consciously and subconsciously), you just need to find out what that is. Most of the time your subconscious goal/path is the one related with your environmental acquired identity and the one you’ll constantly be working on. Sadly, in most cases it’s a sabotaging, self defeated one.

Do you want to know what your life path is?

Do you want to see your destiny?

 

Ask yourself:

 

WHAT AM I CURIOUS ABOUT?

WHAT AM I INTERESTED IN?

The answer to these questions is a direct reflection of what you will do/be for the rest of your life.

 

 * If the answer comes immediately, that means you know it, own it, and you are working on finding your life purpose as we speak. It will make sense, since you are curious/interested in something, you will also have the motivation to spend time on it and develop it. It’s like being thirsty; you’ll drink water when it happens. The thirstier you are the more water you drink. If you want to be successful you must set goals according with your curiosity and interests. You need to stay true to who you really are.

 * If the answer never came to you or you had to think about it for a long time, this emphasizes that you don’t really know yourself. In that case, you might end up setting goals based on other people’s expectations or your underlying beliefs about yourself. When that happens, failure is most likely to occur.

What you gossip about, is what you are interested in.  Can you make that into a profession?

You are what you think about, and then you get what you think about.

 The hardest part is to be honest with yourself when answering these type of questions.  It takes a lot of courage to admit/realize that you might be on the wrong path.

 Leonardo da Vinci once said, “Make your work to be in keeping with your purpose”. How awesome and clear is this quote?

After a certain age, you’ll start learning about your ability to achieve your goals. You confidence and self-esteem is a clear indicator of such.

 When you set a goal for yourself, you’re setting that goal based on your history/ability to achieve them or failing to do so. You might not be consciously aware of your skills; however, you’ll know if you have the ability, resources, and if you’ll create opportunities to achieve your goals.

 The reason you failed to achieve or even start pursuing your life goals is because you are afraid. Everything you do is for a reason, and in most cases it is fear.

Let’s call it for what it is: all the excuses or reasons for not tapping into your dream is a fear-based stall tactic.

You are afraid (consciously or subconsciously), because you’re trading something. It’s a trade that’s being made every time you are deciding to pursue your dreams.  You are taking risks every time you start pursuing your goals. Now think about what you are willing to risk to build the kind of success you ultimately want. Think about what you’re willing to trade when there’s something meaningful at stake: it might be money; it might be professional reputation; it might be fear; it might be embarrassment, or ridicule.  But the payoff, it’s immeasurable. One of the greatest rewards is not having to cope with regrets later in life.

Since the results aren’t immediate, you will put your goals aside again. You will seek short terms rewards vs. long term consequences. Because you’re comfortable, you will settle with your well-known reality, which in most cases is unsatisfactory.

  “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in you sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” Mark Twain

 Want to succeed? You need to stretch. You need to reach out. Stretching, for your purposes, refers to getting in the face of your own fear and anxiety and self-doubts. It’s about going beyond what you habitually do, even beyond new things that you’re willing to try, going far enough that you put something at risk. You put something on the line.

 My risk paid off big time. Thirteen years ago I quit my job, I abandoned my sports career, I left my family and friends behind and moved to the United Stated to start all over again. I risked everything I had and got back everything I wanted.

What motivated me? I was afraid of being afraid to do what I always wanted to do. So I just went for it.

 In order to succeed, you have to be willing to stretch pass feelings of insecurity, trespassing, and of being an imposter to get what you want, to intrude into certain territories without any authority, license, or credentials. In order to find your success you need to be comfortable being uncomfortable.

 Anxiety reflects our desires.  If you’re anxious about starting anything… it’s great. Be anxious, be fearful, and then march straight ahead and plunge in. That continual cycle of fear/action, fear/action, fear/action is how accomplished people live and thrive.

   “If you are never scared or embarrassed or hurt, it means you never take any chances.” Julia Sorel

 If you wait for the perfect moment to do something, you’ll never do anything. If you’re going to build a successful life, you must adopt a go-for-it attitude.

 Nonprocrastinators, it is said, aren’t quite creative enough to be aware of all the things that could go wrong. Right now, you need to decide on the single very next action required to move forward towards a goal. Notice what happens to your energy-you will invariably feel the pressure lighten. When you only think about it, not implementing, this requires as much energy as implementing it.

Remember, you’re here only once, live your life with joy and passion. Do everything you want to do. Control your fears and don’t let it stop you. Don’t let your insecurities hold you back. Don’ let your ego ruin your relationships. Work. Play. Love. Cry. Laugh. Be responsible, go after your dreams and leave behind a legacy. Thank you. #HighPerformanceMentality `

 “Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right’. Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you might have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along”. Napoleon Hill.

2 Comments

  1. Mindy says:

    Bravo Mister Frincu.

  2. Leo says:

    Thank you Mindy.