Hi, my name is Leo Frincu. I am a former World Wrestling Champion from Romania and have been coaching people for over fifteen years at my personal training studio in Los Angeles. My experience as a champion wrestler, a U.S. immigrant and a business owner have helped me to create a coaching program that uses one’s body movement to expose one’s deepest fears. From my experience, four facts can help change your attitude about personal training.
1) IS COACHING ONLY FOR ATHLETES, AND DOES IT ONLY PERTAIN TO PHYSICAL TRAINING?
The answer is NO to both. We are all performers on the stage of Life. However, coaching is only for those individuals who want to improve themselves and their skills. Whether you are an actor looking to gain more confidence or an athlete wanting to perform better, whether you want to feel more attractive or simply want to feel better about yourself, coaching takes an aggressive approach designed to shatter your self-imposed limitations and bring you closer to your goals. True coaching deals with the individual’s overall mentality, not just his athletic, artistic, or business capability. After all, we’re all human beings breathing the same air and feeling the same emotions. My particular coaching style is unique. I use exercises and body movements to expose a client’s deepest self-beliefs. Your body never lies. Therefore, physical movement is an accurate and efficient method to expose one’s weaknesses and the emotional obstacles that are holding him or her back. Since exercises are just tasks, the way you perform an exercise and deal with the challenges that arise during training reflect the way you deal with any other task in your daily life. Dumbbells, ropes, and weights are just tools meant to be used to learn more about ourselves. Remember, it’s never about the exercise – it’s always about the one who does the exercise. The coach’s task is to work to improve human performance. That individual performance is vastly controlled by one’s emotional and mental well-being. The coach must work with both dimensions in order to achieve the desired improvement.
2) CAN I COACH MYSELF?
The answer, again, is NO. You can only see things from your own perspective. Therefore, if you’re not happy with your performance or with how you look and feel, it is because your perspective has too many blind spots. You need someone else to look at you objectively from the outside. Often, problems are not about what you think they’re about. In most cases, the one who creates the problem doesn’t actually see the problem. That’s why you hire a coach. The purpose of coaching is to help you get out of your own way, or at least, to help you understand why you do the things you do. Through coaching, you will learn how fear is interfering with your goals. With time, fear and doubt will slowly find refuge in our heads, where they control us from a subconscious level. By now, we have lived in fear for so long that we’ve become numb to it. A trained, educated, and experienced coach can help you expose these fears and use them to your advantage. A good coach can help you turn fear into a tool for growth, rather than allow it to sabotage your performance. There is a very good reason why athletes, artists, sports teams, CEO’s and a substantial majority of leaders have coaches, trainers, and consultants. They work with coaches because they know they can’t train or coach themselves. Now the question is, who’s in your corner?
3) HOW DO I KNOW I NEED A COACH?
You need a coach as soon as you find yourself stuck, not happy with the results you’ve been experiencing. However, needing a coach and wanting a coach are two completely different things. In order for you to become aware of your need for an outside coach, you must be genuinely interested in yourself. There are four stages of your self-improvement journey:
a) Unconscious Incompetence – This is the stage when you are not aware of the habits that are holding you back. This stage is where most people live. If you are stuck and not happy with your performance, my advice is to ask for help.
b) Conscious Incompetence – This stage is when you slowly become aware of your bad habits or better said when you catch yourself doing things you shouldn’t be doing. If you are in this stage, you’re already ahead of the game. However, becoming aware of the problem doesn’t mean that the problem is automatically solved. Actually, sometimes, it can make things worse. How many people are aware of their excess weight but still have trouble losing it?
c) Conscious Competence – This stage is when you are fully aware and begin to implement routines that support your goals. This stage is particularly difficult because you need a support group as you navigate through these self-awareness challenges. A coach can help you stay focused and remain on track.
d) Unconscious Competence – You’ve now become unaware of the constructive habits you have put into place that support your goals. You’re on cruise control now. Things start happening. That doesn’t mean that obstacles don’t occur and that problems stop coming your way. Being in this stage doesn’t mean that you stop working hard. It just means that you are now mentally, physically, and emotionally available to deal with the problems that come with a great performance.
4) HOW DO I KNOW WHICH COACH IS GOOD FOR ME?
You hire a coach who makes you feel safe and comfortable enough to explore your vulnerability. Finding a why will help you come up with a how. Change starts from within. Therefore, it is imperative that you start answering some difficult questions about yourself.
• Why do you want to change?
• Why is important to accomplish your goals?
• When was the last time you made a mistake?
• When was the last time you learned something new about yourself?
• What are your biggest fears?
• What do you struggle with the most?
• What are the positive and the negative components of accomplishing your goals?
When answering these questions, don’t just settle with the first answer that comes to your mind. Dig deep. These answers will help you learn more about who you are. There are a lot of people who claim to be coaches. There are also a lot of doctors, plumbers, therapists; however, just because one is certified or has a diploma doesn’t automatically make him an expert. You want a coach who is tough, but flexible. You want someone who has been through some tough situations – and, thrived.
You follow the one who believes in himself.
And, you listen to the one who believes in you.
Follow these four simple steps to take your body – and, your mind – to the next level.
If you are interested in scheduling a complimentary half-hour coaching session with me, either in person at my studio or via Skype, simply email your request to Leo@ResultsStudio.com.
Thank you and good luck,
Leo Frincu is a world wrestling champion, author, speaker and performance coach for business leaders and athletes worldwide. To learn more about his training philosophy, check out his latest book, “WELCOME HOME, 3 Simple Steps On How To Reach Your Highest Potential,” available on Amazon and iBooks.