My name is Leo Frincu and I am a transformational coach.
Being in the fitness industry for over two decades has helped me realize a few things.
Although everybody experiences the same feelings over time, nobody is the same, and everybody is going through their own unique situation.
Some people are just simply blessed with better bodies, perhaps better genes, better parents, more money, better hair, longer eyelashes, or other qualities.
Others, not so much.
Some people have height, but lack size. Others have better hair but less money. Some are rich but lacking in confidence.
As a former professional athlete with a lean body, I’m not arguing that you need to work on achieving and maintaining a good physique, or that you need to spend money on fancy hair color or a trendy wardrobe.
However, it’s a fact that some people were not so lucky as to be born in the right neighborhood, or the right body, or the right country, and some did not have the best parents or the proper environment to help them easily succeed.
If you are one of these so called “out-of-luck people”, I would like you to pay attention.
If you want to succeed in spite of your not-so-perfect body shape or weight, or make it out of your third world country, or overcome your disadvantaged cultural background, or skin color, or succeed in spite of your limitations, there are 5 things that I want you to have with you at all times:
1. Thicker Skin. Remember, people and society will make it harder for you to succeed just because, that’s just the way it is. Life’s a bitch sometimes. Often, things don’t come easy. Therefore, you can’t get easily offended if you want to get ahead. You’ll end up off-track, fighting battles you don’t need to win. Stay focused on your goal and ignore the ones who are trying to stop you. Grow a thicker skin and a bigger sense of humor. That’s the only way you’ll be able to move forward.
2. Extra Work Ethic. You must come to terms with the fact that often you will need to put in double the work to achieve the same results as others. You just need to accept that. The more you view yourself as a victim, or as somebody who is disadvantaged, the longer it will take you to rise above. Stop comparing yourself and your work load with others. Accept that sometimes you need to put in more to achieve the same amount of recognition or success. Again, stop paying attention to what others are going through. Get over it. It’s not about them. It’s about you.
3. More Discipline. If you are struggling with a goal, for example, trying to lose weight, you need to understand that it will take more discipline for you to lose 5 pounds than it takes other people. Accept that you’re going to gain weight just by smelling the cookies. Everyone is different and has a different body, and everyone is going through their own battles. Your process is harder, or takes longer, only because you compare it with other people’s processes. Focus on yourself and what it takes to achieve your goals. Accept that you need more discipline than others to achieve the same results. It’s not good, or bad. It’s just the way it is.
4. Extra Resiliency. Many times on your journey, you’re going to get knocked down more than others. That doesn’t mean you’re less of a human being, less skilled, or not good enough. It only means that you just need to get up and try again. You’re not living anybody else’s life, or going after anybody else’s dreams. You’re living your life, and going after your dreams. Shake it off and keep going. Don’t be a cry baby. Your life matters, and your dreams are real. Just keep going. You’ll get there.
5. Double Your Self-Belief. Your journey is meant to teach you something about yourself. The less you believe in yourself, the longer it will take you to achieve your goals. Open your eyes. Double down on yourself. No one else is paying your bills, feeling your pain, or living your life. Accept your journey. Stop wishing for it to be easier or faster. Everyone’s going through something. Believe that everything happens for a reason. And that reason is you becoming a better human being. Believe before you become.
To summarize these principles: Just because you’re not fortunate enough to have a leaner body, more money, or a fantastic background doesn’t mean you can’t achieve your goals, be successful and live happily.
You just need to grow a thicker skin, build extra work ethic, be more disciplined, extra resilient, and double your self-belief. Adopt these 5 principles and I guarantee you’ll live the life you are meant to have.
Leo Frincu is a world wrestling champion, author, speaker and performance coach for business leaders and athletes worldwide. To learn more about his training philosophy, check out his latest book, “WELCOME HOME, 3 Simple Steps On How To Reach Your Highest Potential,” available on Amazon and iBooks.