What would you do if you could upgrade yourself to a better human as easily as you upgrade a phone app? I bet you wouldn’t hesitate for a second, and neither would I.

As a matter of fact, I don’t think I have ever met a single person who didn’t want to be stronger, leaner, faster – and, overall, a better human being. What would that entail? What does one need to become a better human being? The answer? PASSION.

Fortunately for the ones who already have it, and unfortunately for the ones who don’t, I personally believe that self-improvement involves a passion to improve, just like any other passion that drives you toward any particular desired goal. Everyone can always use more strength, more wisdom, more discipline, more confidence. But, in order to get more of any of those things, you need to be genuinely interested in yourself.

Some people are passionate about cars, or fashion, or fishing, or running. Others are passionate about reading or writing. The same approach applies when it comes to passion for improving yourself as a human being. You’re either passionate about getting to know yourself – or you’re not. You’re either obsessed with getting stronger, faster, leaner, smarter – or you’re not. You are either genuinely interested in learning more about your strengths and weaknesses – or you simply don’t care.

Please don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with being more interested in running than in reading, or preferring riding to writing. The same goes with wanting to improve either your physique or your communication skills, or both. There’s nothing wrong with having multiple passions. Regardless of your interests, it really comes down to how hard and how long you are willing to work to achieve your goals. It comes down to how you choose to spend your time.

The more time you spend working on yourself, the better you’ll get at being yourself. For example, the more time you spend driving, the better driver you’ll become. It is as simple as that. However, I truly believe that by becoming a better human being, you will automatically become a better driver, a better athlete, a better plumber. All you have to do is to become obsessed with improving yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally.

You’re probably thinking, “Come on, Leo, why obsessed? I don’t have that kind of time and energy!” And, I’ll respond by saying, “Because there’s no such thing as being a little bit interested in yourself, in the same way that there’s no such thing as being a little bit passionate about your goals.” You are either obsessed with your self-improvement process, your goals, and dreams – or, you’re not.

Self-improvement happens only when you push yourself out of your comfort zone. What does that mean? Do what you don’t feel like doing; say what you don’t feel like saying; feel what you don’t feel like feeling.  

Just as some people like avocado and dislike broccoli, certain people are comfortable pushing themselves out of their comfort zone, while others are not. Improvement requires sacrifice. You need to put in the time. Force yourself to do the things you don’t like to do but know that you need to do.

Whether you want to create a strong bond with another person or want to improve yourself by increasing your self-confidence, you can only accomplish those things by getting out of your comfort zone and pushing your limits, mentally and physically. However, since human beings are naturally driven more towards comfort, subconsciously, you can’t and won’t push yourself that hard or that long.

You won’t – because you’ll always come up with scenarios that will keep you from reaching your mental and physical thresholds. That’s why it is imperative to work with a coach if you want to reach – and surpass – your self-imposed limits.

I said, “want to reach” – as if you have a choice. Again, remember, it is not natural to want to push your limits. In my case, along with others who like to sadistically push themselves to their limits, self-improvement isn’t something I choose. Rather, it is something that chooses me. Being a better human being, living and performing at my highest potential, is a process I simply enjoy. To be more exact, I enjoy the pain and suffering that comes with pushing myself past my limits.

Are you willing to SACRIFICE your comfort zone and accept the pain that comes with bringing your dreams to reality? Are you willing to FEEL what you need to feel and DO what you need to do in order to UPGRADE YOURSELF to a better version of yourself?

To summarize it all, in order to improve yourself, you need to have a Passion for pain and suffering and allow yourself to enjoy going places within you that you’ve never been before.

Leo Frincu is a world wrestling champion, author, speaker and performance coach for business leaders and athletes worldwide. To learn more about his training philosophy, check out his latest book, “WELCOME HOME, 3 Simple Steps On How To Reach Your Highest Potential,” available on Amazon and iBooks.