Excessive weight gain is due to a spiritual and emotional deficit.
Excessive weight gain is due to a spiritual and emotional deficit, and in most cases, obesity is not related with food.
The fact is: 40 percent of obese people have struggled with their weight since childhood. Regardless of this fact, 80 percent of all obese people have weight issues due to an emotional set back.
It is not until someone reaches adulthood do they realize that there is an issue with their weight. Often times, most people aren’t aware, nor remember nor care about the roots of their weight problem. However, with the help of today’s media, they start blaming fast food for their excess fat.
If you are overweight, I want you to ask yourself, when exactly did your weight become a problem?
I believe that your weight doesn’t become an issue just because your doctor’s tells you about the consequences of being obese. It usually happens way before that. Have you never seen an obese child complaining about his excess weight? Of course not. This doesn’t happen until a child is bullied or teased about his weight. Your weight becomes a problem shortly after you experience an emotional set back (emotional trauma). You start struggling with your excess weight as soon as you try to be accepted for someone you are NOT. It’s not about your excess weight; it’s more about your lack of self-esteem. Often times, your struggle isn’t about staying healthy, is about being accepted. There’s a reason you eat more than your body needs. It is because you replacing emotions with food. Your weight gain usually begins in your childhood when your emotional needs were not met. The bigger the emotional trauma, the more you eat. The more we try to fit in, the more weight we gain. We don’t have a weight problem, we have a happiness problem. We blame food because people want an easy and quick fix. We are rebelling from the trauma by becoming invisible by stuffing our mouths. However, as long as the struggle exists, the weight will also stay… or return. The more you ignore your emotional and spiritual needs, the bigger you’ll get. You need to not only acknowledge your emotional pain, but also fulfill the spiritual deficiency in order to have success in your weight loss. In order to thrive, your body, mind, and soul need energy. Your body needs good nutrition, your mind needs healthy thoughts, and your soul needs plenty of wholesome spirituality (emotional intelligence/ healthy feelings). Most people don’t lack food; they lack the other two components. You can eat less but you definitely can’t feel less… no matter how hard you try. Your mind, body, and soul will constantly try to fulfill their needs. Since you are emotionally starving, you’ll subconsciously try to fulfill that by overeating. It’s never about the excess weight, it’s always about who you truly trying to deny… which is YOUR true self. When you embrace yourself, love yourself, and accept yourself, only then will your fat start melting away. Food is not your enemy and you don’t need to go on a diet. You just need to acknowledge your emotions, or the lack of them, and fulfill your spiritual needs. It’s not about what you eat; it is more about what’s eating you. Good luck.
Thank you for your blog. Looking back, this would make no sense to me. Years ago, I would probably feel victimised by the society and offended by your article. I now see thing in a new perspective, wanting to take responsibility for my life, and therefore, my weight. It makes perfect sense that through a healing process, my need to overeat will be obsolete. The only way out for me is to have a go…for my own sake. I find this spiritual approach of weight holistic and gentle. Let me patient and kind to ourselves…we worth and deserve it.
Thank you, Telly. It is easier to blame our society, our past and others than take responsibility. I’m happy you found this blog helpful. Thank you for your comment. Leo
And? This is news? I think most overweight people will tell you this. Everything will.be just fine if you love yourself, right? Just do that. Great, super helpful. No guidance on HOW to do this. HOW to change all of the over-culture programming that being fat means you have failed as a human, that the “just concerned about your health” negative comments even a small amount of expressed body positivity will bring. Have you ever lived in a fat body? Do you have any understanding at all how hurtful it is to come across this tripe, that all I need is love and acceptance and all the grief and trauma and emotional abuse will just melt away? That it’s just that easy to go from being raised to hate your body to loving it? And now, according to your great wisdom, I’m also spiritually deficient and disconnected, despite in depth study and practice in Shamanic healing and meditation, because I’m fat. That’s crap. It’s prejudice and dangerous. And just as fat phobic as all the “fat people are lazy” trolls the internet can spew. For a post all about love, it reels of hateful subtext.
I wish I could reply in a way that makes sense but I often do not. I too am so tired of seeing and hearing lines I can I read on a living room wall, picture frame, bumper sticker and pillow cases. Cheap and useless advice (if it even qualifies as advice). I also see that in his lack of useful and your witty response I’m sitting here responding with what I’ve learned. I can only speak about things pertaining to life from my currrent window which is a 36 yr old female. One day I was painting and I noticed my hands as if I hadn’t met them before. Suddenly it hit me that these hands have been so much a blessing (as well as feet etc but this is a starting point at least). I thought of them suddenly like friends or children maybe even pets haha, I guess it makes sense if you imagine “thing” on Adams family. Anyway, to think they won’t always be here I had an overwhelming almost (embarrassing to admit) sadness for Hess hands that are mine. I make YouTube videos on random things like this and I’m glad to see your comment on this post bc I feel motivated to work on one about this. So that’s where I really started to love me on the inside without the cheesy quotes attached. In fact this view has helped me in many ways to understand the things many have overlooked in the more recent century anyways. And it’s not that our physical state is evidence of the inside being deficient but the fact we do notice a difference or point out difference is ultimately revealing the sickness of humanity. I say let those hands serve you as you please and as you appreciate these little things (on this very peculiar level of appreciating the self) areas of your own mind will feel truly fulfilled, recognized and appreciated
To where indeed you will become changed in whatever way suits your
Heart. To me everyone is like Jesus and just forgot how special they are.
Hi, Julia. I have never lived in a fat body but as a former wrestler, I have been always labeled as fat. Unfortunately, at the end of my wrestling career, I came out with an eating disorder. I used to look and treat food as my enemy. It took me years to learn that my relationship with food is not different from any relationship. I’m sorry to see that you haven’t found anything helpful from reading this article. I would love to talk to you more and see if I can help you. I’ve acquired a lot of tools from working with people with weight, and body image issues. Thank you for your comment. I really appreciate you taking the time.
Now that I think of it, I gained a massive amount of weight after being dumped by the love of my life. I was already rejected by my father. I already had issues with men. And now I had an issue with myself..
The problem is I’m trying to love myself but I can’t because I struggle now with the horrible responses I get to being fat. Try to love yourself and then go to work and be scoffed at. There’s nowhere to get away from it. The looks, the remarks and the cruelty. People will kick you when you’re down and that’s the reality and you just have to look in the mirror and love yourself anyway.
Thank you for your comment, Precious. The key is to surround yourself with people who love you for who you are and stop paying attention to what others are saying. Hope you are doing better.
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I do not overeat, but i gain weight ever since i’ve hit puberty. My slim friend eats 10 times more than i do. What is the reason behind my low metabolism? why is my body storing fat? how is it serving me?
Wonderful piece and true story. A delight to read.